We followed my husband’s dream of buying a “fixer-upper” in the country. Our lives were full of additions, half-finished projects, resentments and forgiveness. What I didn’t count on was my husband’s sudden death in 2012 leaving me with unfinished home projects and no instruction manual. This is the story of my concurrent journey through grief and learning how to do home repair.
When I was a new widow I desperately tried to order my grief into the five stages that had been drilled into me as a nurse. Denial. Anger. Bargaining. Depression. Acceptance. They are so familiar.
Instead, as a new widow, it seemed as if time stood still, and I was suspended in space. When would the tidy grief I had learned about in nursing school begin?
In my book, I challenge the notion that grief is tidy and linear. Please click on the contact tab and share the story of your experience with grief. Was it linear? Messy? Tidy? Circuitous? Your story is for my eyes only.
And maybe I will see you tomorrow at the brewery??
It was wonderful on Saturday to meet so many of you at the Rain Taxi Event. I am interested in hearing your grief stories – please go to the “contact” tab and there is a space for you to share your story with me – this will be shared with no one but me. Second event is in New Ulm at Schell’s Brewery in their beautiful taproom this weekend – 10/22 from 4-7.
Last chance for pre-order! Books are due to arrive at the printer next week!
I believe that at some point in a Grief Journey, the traveler must make a choice between longing for the past and moving forward. Grief, if we allow it, can be transformational. Yes, the past and our loved one will always be a part of us, but rather than pine for the life that once was, we can move forward with the puzzle pieces arranged in a new way.
Changes are coming to my farmhouse. The well house is coming down and a new addition is going up to insulate those pipes. Thank you, you have served well for nearly 90 years, but the time has come for me to no longer wash dishes in the bathrub.
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for pre-order and to read the latest reviews. And remember – the launch is coming up. Save-the-date – October 22, 2023 at Schell’s Brewery in New Ulm, MN 4-7 pm